The Impact of Cognitive Language Control Based on Islamic Teachings on Controlling the Emotions of Women with Marital Conflicts

Document Type : Original Article


1 Associate Professor, Birjand Branch, Islamic Azad University, Birjand, Iran.

2 Master of Clinical Psychology


Existence of marital conflict leads to a decrease in mental health and couples’ satisfaction with their lives, and these conflicts result from the way in which words and conversations are used between husbands and wives. Therefore, this study was conducted to examine the impact of cognitive language control training on controlling the emotions of women with marital conflicts who had referred to counseling centers. This is a quasi-experimental study with a pretest-posttest design and a control group. The statistical population included all the women with marital conflicts who had referred to the Center for Intervention in Family, Individual and Social Crises of Birjand Welfare Office in the third quarter of 2015. Using the convenience sampling method, 32 people were selected and were randomly divided into two groups, each including 16 people. The data collection instrument was The Emotion Control Scale (Williams and Chambels, 1997). The experimental group received nine 60-minute sessions of cognitive language control training based on Islamic teachings. The collected data were analyzed using analysis of covariance at the significance level of 0.05. The findings of multivariate analysis of covariance indicated the effectiveness of language cognitive control training based on Islamic teachings on reducing anger, anxiety and depression and increasing positive emotions. According to the results of this study, cognitive language control based on Islamic teachings aimed at activating useful language and preventing language sins can affect emotion control.


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